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While someone had posted a comment on how to meet western women in Osaka, another person commented saying they recommended a book. But you know sometimes just providing a link may show the lack of effort put into responding. (yes i said it.) So i did a small reply saying "be yourself, don't be afraid to show you like her". But i guess that wasn't much. :/ There was the reply of "thanks for the advice but how do i meet western women in Osaka?". You can find the conversation here (within the comments section). I don't really want to answer because I think this person just needs confidence and is approaching the situation from an odd angle. . .
How would you meet ANY woman? Meet your friends' friends, talk to people who work with you, or talk to anyone that looks interesting or fun (like the girl behind the counter at that shop you always go to), randomly emailing someone. . .:3 I mean it really should not be an issue whether that girl is japanese or 'western'. A girl is a girl in my eyes.
And who cares whether japanese men are popular or not? This is what I mean by confidence. It isn't important if people whom you are NOT going to date are not interested in your 'type'. If you meet someone who says 'i don't like japanese men' or 'i don't like people who speak french all the time', then there is no point in hanging out with them. Why waste your time with someone like that?
I once met a girl who told me that she absolutely hated spanish. Spanish is like my every essence. . . I can't just delete the folder called "Spanish" from myself. So i stopped hanging out with her cuz for someone to say they hate a language, they obviously are putting their frustration on the wrong thing. It's like hating a banana! (Excluding the people that don't like bananas), maybe you don't like the way its' cooked, but a banana will always be a banana. And just like a place. The people is what makes a place. If someone tells me they don't like a place, I'll be like "well maybe you don't like the people IN that place, cuz if you take those people out of the picture, the place is just a place".
But this is about dating right?
So my point is, why focus your energy on a group of people? You are not dating a group of people. (unless you're one of those polygamous persons but I doubt they even exist in Japan. . .or do they? o___O) You're thinking of dating this one girl who you think is pretty and nice right? So focus on HER ONLY! And if she doesn't like you, then she doesn't like you, and you go find another girl that is interesting to you. ^^ How to meet her? Well think. . . . where would a western woman in Japan be? Most likely she has other 'western' friends. How old is she? What places are interesting to you? Would you be interested in that girl you see in the cafe or a night club? She's just like any other girl . . .except she may (or may not) be taller, looks different on the outside, and may be a lot more opinionated in some ways.
Ok, so anyways, that's that! But before I leave this subject, I want to remember this book. Called Love With A Western Woman: A Guide For Japanese Men. So far i just read a little bit of the beginning but it was interesting. What would a woman tell other japanese guys on . . . . .basically how to date us? XD Honestly i'm more interested in the dating and sex part, and just hearing what other girls have to say.
Yea people keep saying a relationship with a japanese girl and western guy is more common, blah blah blah, and their perspectives are interesting. But even in those relationships, I want to know the woman's perspective too. Not just the guys. So that's why their stories are a little boring right now. Most of the things we hear in English is from the guy. Where did the girl go? :P I'll have to check out Matome. . . .hmmm.
Which, by the way, now i remember something that a friend of mine said/expressed. He was talking about how he wants to date western women but he feels he can't do this because his english is not good. I told him we can all understand him, so it doesn't matter. I think he just has super low self-confidence at the moment. And now that I was skimming that Love With a Western Woman book she said something like this:
I agree with her on that. *^^*
While someone had posted a comment on how to meet western women in Osaka, another person commented saying they recommended a book. But you know sometimes just providing a link may show the lack of effort put into responding. (yes i said it.) So i did a small reply saying "be yourself, don't be afraid to show you like her". But i guess that wasn't much. :/ There was the reply of "thanks for the advice but how do i meet western women in Osaka?". You can find the conversation here (within the comments section). I don't really want to answer because I think this person just needs confidence and is approaching the situation from an odd angle. . .
How would you meet ANY woman? Meet your friends' friends, talk to people who work with you, or talk to anyone that looks interesting or fun (like the girl behind the counter at that shop you always go to), randomly emailing someone. . .:3 I mean it really should not be an issue whether that girl is japanese or 'western'. A girl is a girl in my eyes.
And who cares whether japanese men are popular or not? This is what I mean by confidence. It isn't important if people whom you are NOT going to date are not interested in your 'type'. If you meet someone who says 'i don't like japanese men' or 'i don't like people who speak french all the time', then there is no point in hanging out with them. Why waste your time with someone like that?
I once met a girl who told me that she absolutely hated spanish. Spanish is like my every essence. . . I can't just delete the folder called "Spanish" from myself. So i stopped hanging out with her cuz for someone to say they hate a language, they obviously are putting their frustration on the wrong thing. It's like hating a banana! (Excluding the people that don't like bananas), maybe you don't like the way its' cooked, but a banana will always be a banana. And just like a place. The people is what makes a place. If someone tells me they don't like a place, I'll be like "well maybe you don't like the people IN that place, cuz if you take those people out of the picture, the place is just a place".
But this is about dating right?
So my point is, why focus your energy on a group of people? You are not dating a group of people. (unless you're one of those polygamous persons but I doubt they even exist in Japan. . .or do they? o___O) You're thinking of dating this one girl who you think is pretty and nice right? So focus on HER ONLY! And if she doesn't like you, then she doesn't like you, and you go find another girl that is interesting to you. ^^ How to meet her? Well think. . . . where would a western woman in Japan be? Most likely she has other 'western' friends. How old is she? What places are interesting to you? Would you be interested in that girl you see in the cafe or a night club? She's just like any other girl . . .except she may (or may not) be taller, looks different on the outside, and may be a lot more opinionated in some ways.
Ok, so anyways, that's that! But before I leave this subject, I want to remember this book. Called Love With A Western Woman: A Guide For Japanese Men. So far i just read a little bit of the beginning but it was interesting. What would a woman tell other japanese guys on . . . . .basically how to date us? XD Honestly i'm more interested in the dating and sex part, and just hearing what other girls have to say.
Yea people keep saying a relationship with a japanese girl and western guy is more common, blah blah blah, and their perspectives are interesting. But even in those relationships, I want to know the woman's perspective too. Not just the guys. So that's why their stories are a little boring right now. Most of the things we hear in English is from the guy. Where did the girl go? :P I'll have to check out Matome. . . .hmmm.
Which, by the way, now i remember something that a friend of mine said/expressed. He was talking about how he wants to date western women but he feels he can't do this because his english is not good. I told him we can all understand him, so it doesn't matter. I think he just has super low self-confidence at the moment. And now that I was skimming that Love With a Western Woman book she said something like this:
Don't worry about your language ability -- a desire to communicate from the heart is much more attractive than perfect grammar!
I agree with her on that. *^^*
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